Attracting Your Own Child Back

If you're reading this, chances are you are not in relationship with your child right now. It is deeply troubling and sad when this happens, especially when it is unwarranted or could have been prevented. There is an entire population of children who have lost a parent due to death, and yet you are living and breathing and ready to reunite. Luckily, it's possible for you and your child to be back in relationship. Here's how.

1. Let go of the resentment

This is going to be a tough one for many. But you have to let go of the negativity you have towards your co-parent, and maybe even your child. Resentment is like poison. It will slowly but surely take over. I can't tell you how many times a parent will let this resentment come out, towards and onto the child. Maybe they start telling the child all the 'alienating' behaviors their other parent has done. Maybe they start expressing their sadness over what has happened, and the child starts to feel guilty and responsible. Or maybe they even get passive aggressive and start pulling away themselves. This only reinforces the distance. Let it go. Focus on the future.

2. Take responsibility where it's yours to take

There is a 0% chance that you have 0% responsibility to take. This is NOT to be mistaken for blame. It is simply a matter of taking responsibility for any kernels of truth, and for having children with the person who is alienating. No need to write an elaborate apology letter, but if it comes up in conversation then you should always take responsibility where necessary, and never where it's not.

3. Adopt a growth mindset

When you become open to growth and change, it's practically a superpower. You will be willing to learn, adapt, be open to feedback, take responsibility for what hasn't worked, shift, and so on. You will always keep your eye on the ball and be determined to reunite if this is your mindset.

4. Always show up for your child

It doesn't matter if they don't respond — keep texting. Shift the way in which you do so, but still do so. It doesn't matter if they respond in a hostile manner — keep showing up with love. Show up!

5. Do the inner work

Do what is necessary to heal. Heal from your own childhood trauma, heal from adult heartache, heal from the pain of being cutoff from a child. Yes — it's painful. No — it doesn't have to continue to affect you the way it has. An unhealthy state of mind may keep your child at bay. Healing yourself allows you to be the soft place to land for your child. And that is the only place you want to be.

Staying on track with these 5 tips will keep you on the path to attracting your child back. When you shift, your children feel the shift in your energy. If you're struggling, check out our private Chosen Parent Collective community: https://consciouscoparentinginstitute.com/chosen-parent-collective/