November 6

Building a Strong Blended Family Amid Co-Parenting Conflict


The blending of families can be a beautiful and rewarding experience, but it often comes with its own set of challenges, particularly when there's co-parenting conflict involved. The journey may not always be smooth, but with patience, understanding, and open communication, you can create a loving blended family. Follow these tips if you are blending a family with a partner who is in a contentious co-parenting dynamic: 

Prioritize the Children's Well-Being

This should be obvious, yet often is unclear as to what the child's wellbeing really is. Sit with your partner and really get clear on what their best interest is. Then, that can be top of mind moving forward. Encourage open dialogue with them about their feelings and concerns.

Respect Each Parent's Role

Respect and acknowledge each parent's unique role in the children's lives. Ensure that children maintain a healthy relationship with their biological parents while also fostering connections with step-parents. Mutual respect is crucial. Remember that no matter the conflict between co-parents and the bonus parents' natural inclination to side with your partner, never discuss those matters with the children. 

Encourage Bonding Time

Create opportunities for bonding among family members. Plan activities that allow the children and adults to spend quality time together, fostering stronger connections and understanding among the entire family. Make sure there is time for parent and child to spend quality time, without the bonus parent on occasion. If there is a cutoff, as a bonus parent do your best to help facilitate fun activities for them to do. 

Be Patient and Flexible

Blending a family takes time. Be patient with the process and allow space for each family member to adapt and grow. Flexibility is key when it comes to accommodating changes and addressing unexpected challenges, and making sure conflict is at a minimum. If you're a bonus parent, know what is your problem to solve and which is not. You may want to fix things on behalf of your partner that they should really be fixing on their own. 

Foster a Positive Environment

Promote a loving and supportive atmosphere within your blended family. Encourage compliments, positive reinforcement, and expressions of affection. Create a safe space for everyone to share their thoughts and feelings. This is crucial if there is tension between parent and child and parent/co-parent.

Seek Support

In situations of intense co-parenting conflict, supportive coursework or coaching will be widely beneficial. A neutral third-party can help facilitate discussions, mediate conflicts, and provide guidance on how to navigate the challenges of blending a family. We offer one-on-one coaching, and structural coursework for support that meets the needs of where your family is at. 

Remember that creating a successful blended family is an ongoing process that requires patience, empathy, and a commitment to nurturing positive relationships. By keeping the children's best interests at the forefront and working together as a team, you can build a harmonious and loving family unit despite any co-parenting conflicts that may arise.


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