January 8

From Pain to Power: Recovering Alienated Children


Being rejected by a child is an excruciating experience that many alienated parents face. The emotional agony often engulfs them, leaving them feeling powerless and hopeless. However, it's crucial to acknowledge that amidst this pain, there is a path toward empowerment and the possibility of re-establishing a connection with their child.

Understanding the Pain:

The pain of parental alienation runs deep. It's natural for alienated parents to experience a whirlwind of emotions – from heartbreak and grief to anger and confusion. This emotional turmoil can become overwhelming, making it challenging to envision a way out.

Acknowledge and Accept Emotions:

The first step toward healing is acknowledging these emotions. It's okay to feel hurt, angry, or lost. Acceptance doesn’t mean surrendering to these feelings but rather recognizing and validating them. By acknowledging the pain, parents can begin to navigate through it. Check out our free mini course on taming your pain. 

Seek Support:

No one should go through this journey alone. Seeking support from friends, family, or professionals can provide a safe space for expressing feelings and gaining perspective. Support groups or therapy sessions specifically tailored for alienated parents can offer invaluable guidance and understanding. We offer one that involves a group call led by Dorcy each month. Check it out here.


Taking care of oneself during such a challenging time is crucial. Engaging in activities that bring solace – whether it's yoga, painting, journaling, or simply taking a walk in nature – can alleviate some of the pain and help maintain mental and emotional well-being.

Reframe Perspectives:

While the pain is profound, it's essential to reframe perspectives. Instead of focusing solely on the anguish, try to envision a path forward. Cultivating hope and optimism, albeit difficult, can be a driving force in reclaiming the relationship with the child. Please practice empathy of where your child is placed as this will allow you to show up in a much different light.

Empowerment Through Action:

Regaining a connection with an alienated child may seem insurmountable, but taking small, proactive steps is crucial. This could involve writing letters expressing love and understanding, reaching out through non-confrontational means, or seeking legal avenues when appropriate.

Patience and Perseverance:

Healing and rebuilding relationships take time. It's vital to exercise patience and perseverance throughout this journey. Even if progress seems slow or setbacks occur, staying committed to the process is essential.


Parental alienation is undoubtedly one of the most painful experiences a parent can endure. However, within this pain lies the potential for healing and reconnecting. By acknowledging emotions, seeking support, practicing self-care, reframing perspectives, taking empowered action, and persisting with patience, alienated parents can navigate through the pain and work towards rebuilding relationships with their children. The alternative is letting the pain take over so much so that there is a near zero chance of reunification. The choice is up to you. 


You are not alone in this journey. Your pain is valid, but so is the hope for reconciliation. With determination and support, healing and connection are possible.


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